Lately I've been glued to my computer for a few too many hours in the past few weeks. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely adore it and feel so much gratitude each and every day for the work that I get to do, but given that I am someone that helps women take back control of their lives and learn how to prioritize their own self-care and wellness, work on their self-worth and the compassion they feel towards themselves, then I know that it's extra important for me to be fully rested and on my A-game so I can be in a position to help other women do the same.
The kicker is, I am working on something that I am so pumped about and I am even more pumped to get it out into the world and be able to share it with all of your beautiful people! And when you have a job that you love so much that it doesn't even feel like work, you sometimes need a reminder that unplugging and turning your brain off for a little bit is in order. And for me, that's something that is difficult to remember when I am SO incredibly passionate about the work that I do, so much so, I've been feeling a little run down these past couple of weeks.
If you read my last blog post, you'll have known I had a jam-packed couple of weeks of education and inspiration in San Francisco and Atlanta where I learned from my own coach and the coaching academy that I was certified with. I wouldn't often recommend a red-eye to anyone or sign up for one myself, but this particular trip involved two full day seminars, neither of which I was willing to go without. (Again, when it doesn't feel like work because you love what you do, it's even more important to remind yourself to take it easy.)
So last week after spending a heck of a lot of time unplugging, resting, relaxing and recharging so I can be in a better place to serve my clients, I complied a list of ways that not only helped me to avoid burnout in the future, but will hopefully do the same for you.
1.) Set up some boundaries: Especially during the holidays, we can be stretched pretty thin and expected to be in a lot of places at one time. Do you feel like your agenda constantly gets put on the back burner for someone else's? Do you feel like you end up prioritizing other people's needs before your own? Start setting up some boundaries and give yourself permission to say no to the things that you not only don't have time for, but for the things that you simply don't want to do either. For example, do some friends want you to join them for a bite to eat when you just want to stay in and relax? Does someone need you to run an errand just because they can't manage their own time, and as a result, your own to-do list gets prioritized last? Set up those boundaries and give yourself permission to say no (and do so unapologetically - you're worth it.)
2.) Create a "downtime" daily ritual: Whether it's in the morning or the evening, I always encourage my clients to create a "downtime" ritual for themselves which is non-negotiable you-time. Treat this like a doctor's appointment and don't cancel it. Mark it in your agenda and if you're asked to do something or have a busy day ahead, always take that time out for yourself and use it for whatever type of activity that relaxes you. Spend time in nature, read a book, take a bath. Whatever it is, treat it as a time to honour and celebrate all of your hard work.
3.) Stop being a perfectionist: This is a difficult one for me. If I am working on a big project, releasing a blog or trying to meet a deadline of sorts, it never feels good enough. So I work myself to the ground trying to make something perfect. If this is you (and I think a lot of people fall into this category) just know, you don't have to get it perfect, you just have to get it started. When I launched my website - none of my links worked. I started panicking and getting so down on myself because what I had spent three months trying to perfect it before I shared it with the world, and after all of those hours of making sure everything was spelled correctly and looked presentable, there was still something that wasn't right. Another example has to do with my photo shoot for the website. I was out in Hawaii, found an amazing photographer, had the locations scoped out ahead of time, spent way too long on pinterest trying to figure out the right outfits to wear, got up super early to do my hair and makeup, and did everything else to ensure I was ready, just to get my photos back and realized my shirt was three buttons out of alignment. Like not even close. Check it out for a good laugh, here. There will always be something that doesn't go to plan, so just relax and give yourself permission to release whatever you are working on before it feels ready (because it never will).
4.) Schedule in some "fun" time: My family and friends need to remind me of this one almost on a daily basis. So much so, I had to ask one of my friends the other day, "What do you do for fun?" Again, when we get caught up doing something we love so much, we forget to take time out of our days to turn it off, unplug and do something that we enjoy. Whether it's going out with friends, going to a movie, scheduling in a "date-night" with your partner, it's important that we take some time to shut our minds off from our work so when we do get back to it, we feel energized and ready to go. Also, life is a whole lot better when you take the time to enjoy it. You don't want to look back forty years from now and realize you just worked all day, every day. Spend time with family, partake in a hobby or do whatever you want to take a step back from work.
Given that it's pretty late in the evening (and I have just recently set up some boundaries for myself) I need to listen to my own advice here and turn off my computer for the remainder of the evening. If you liked this post then please share! And if you have any other tips on how you avoid burnout, I would love to hear from you!