I just came back from our annual "Christmas on the Reservation" trip with my Love Has No Color family, and as always - it made me do some deep and internal reflecting on the way home.
(Side note - a MASSIVE thank-you to everyone who contributed, attended and donated this year - so much love & gratitude for you!)
Back to my story, it made me reevaluate where I am in life and had me asking myself a few key questions that I think all of us should be routinely asking ourselves:
- Am I continuing to do everything in my power to become the best version of myself, with every year and every day?
- Am I continuing to do my very best to be of service to those in need around me and continuing to make the impact that I want to make during my precious days on this earth?
- Am I showing up as my most loving and compassionate self in all of my relationships with my partner, my family, my friends, my clients, my brand new little niece and nephew, or with the complete strangers I encounter on the street, in the coffee shop or in the elevator?
- Am I doing everything I can do to take ownership for expressing my fullest gifts and strengths every single day, without making any excuses or giving my power away to any external circumstances?
And the reason these are important questions to ponder is that this is a time of the year when many of us reflect on the progress we did (or did not) make during the previous year.
I also know that with reflection, comes dreaming and inspiration, and with dreaming and inspiration - comes self-doubt, fears, inadequacies and excuses.
I see it all the time (and am guilty of this, myself).
I’ll be having a conversation with someone about a new idea, project or area of growth or change they want to make in their lives.
I can hear the excitement in their voice.
I can see the joy reach their eyes.
I know that what they are sharing is something that's incredibly meaningful, important, and something that - if implemented - would completely shift the trajectory of their life for the better.
But then something happens.
It’s like some invisible force breaks into their mind and begins to point out all of the reasons why this idea is wrong and how they are going to fail.
Fears, limitations and self-doubt begin to roll in, and they quickly build up speed.
The long list of reasons/excuses begin to crash down on that once exciting thought, and instead of taking responsibility and ownership for the new direction we wish to make in our lives and to trust in our innate capabilities - we begin to play a little thing we call - the “blame game”.
- We blame our parents. Our upbringing, our early childhood conditions and we say it’s because of “them” that we’re lazy, lack discipline, why we can’t save money or why we’ll never amount to anything.
- We blame our current situations or circumstances. We blame our unsupportive spouses, we blame the busy home life, we say we’ll do it when things die down at work, when the children grow up or when we retire.
- We blame our boss, politics, the economy or an unexpected expense.
And instead of saying - f*ck it, I'm taking the chance, anyways....
- We grab a glass of wine.
- We turn on Netflix and watch 6 episodes of the latest and greatest t.v. show.
- We sprawl across the couch, pull up our various social media channels and flash forward a couple of hours, we wonder how we got lost in the highlight reels of all of the people we may (or may not) know.
And we say to ourselves,
“I’ll make the change tomorrow”.
But I know you know as well as I do friend, tomorrow never comes.
And while yes, all of the above can derail you momentarily, can cause you to question yourself, or can create self-doubt, what we fail to realize is this:
Each and every single one of us has a responsibility to create our own version of happiness, joy and fulfillment during our precious days on the planet - regardless of our external circumstances.
So I shot a quick little video for you - to remind you that you have so much more power, ability, creativity and inspiration that you give yourself credit for - to do whatever it is you’ve always wanted to do.
And no thing, person or external circumstance has the power or ability to prevent you from living the life you've always wanted to live.
And the truth is this:
- You're the only one responsible for living a life that actually makes you excited to get out of bed in the morning.
- You’re the only one who gets to decide if you are doing the work you’ve always wanted to do and sharing your life with the person you've always wanted to share your life with.
- You're the only one who gets to decide whether or not you are moving closer and closer towards the powerful, capable and extraordinary human being that you know you are, at your core.
But the responsibility lies with you, and only you.
So if you’d like, check out my latest video on Taking Responsibility For Your Life and make the decision TODAY to take back control of your life.
Because you're more ready than you think.
Watch the full video, HERE.
And if you know of anyone who could benefit from hearing this message this week, then please share! I'd be so grateful if you continued to spread the message.