Have you ever been faced with a difficult decision in your life, that you know deep at your core what you already need/want/desire to do, but you find yourself coming up with every excuse in the book to put that decision off or to do something first, instead?
Some of the difficult decisions I have personally experienced include (but are not limited to) the following:
Should I or shouldn't I pick up, move across the country and work in a challenging environment to get me closer to my dreams
Should I or shouldn't I quit my job for something that I know - deep in my core - would be aligned with my passion, my purpose, core values and my highest self
Should I or shouldn't I remain in this romantic relationship that no longer aligns with the direction I want to go
Should I or shouldn't I sell all of my possessions, move to a different country and get a job waitressing tables
Should I or shouldn't I drain my savings to invest in something I know deep within my entire being, that this training, course, investment, retreat, etc. will completely alter the trajectory of the path that I am on
Should I or shouldn't I put this rock up my nose because I have no pockets and really want to add it to my rock collection but don't want to carry it around anymore? (Granted, this happened when I was four, but still a difficult decision none the less.)
A tendency that I've struggled with in the past (and still guilty from time to time), is reaching out to others and asking them what I should do about a specific situation. And as much as I'd love someone to make a decision for me, no one (but me) knows what would truly excite, energize or light me up inside. In addition, no one one should ultimately be a deciding factor for why we do, or do not make a change in our life that we know deep down is the right decision, moving forward.
And similar to the work that I do with my clients, it's not my responsibility to tell people what to do or what not to do. I simply help guide them back to their innate wisdom, helping them make the decision that ultimately is aligned with their highest self, helping them to understand that no decision is right or wrong but rather, to trust that it's the exact decision they need to make in that specific moment, in order to get them closer to the person and place they are meant to be.
Sometimes it's more difficult to take your own advice.
That became glaringly obvious when I had a conversation with a good friend of mine recently, and we got talking about something that has been on my mind for quite some time now. Regardless of the reminders that it is so easy to give to others and what I reiterate to myself time and time again - which include - (but are not limited to), the following:
Trust the Universe
Know you are being guided and supported at any given time
You already have the answer inside of you
Everything happens for a reason
There are no coincidences
Listen to what your gut is telling you
Lead from the heart and not the head
Come from a place of love and compassion and you can never go wrong
Do you ever want to throw your head in your hands in total exasperation because you just want someone to make the damn decision for you, yet you already know what needs to be done?
That's common. But the kicker is, the thing you've been thinking about, that thing you're afraid to admit, the answer you've been seeking from everyone (and everything) else, outside of you, that decision you've been trying to ignore, put it off, save it for when it feels right, when you feel ready, and when you have more time -
You already know what it is, that you need to do.
And another big sign, if the answer makes you feel uncomfortable, uneasy, scared, fearful and requires you to step wayyyyyyyy outside of your comfort zone, then it's likely the exact path that you know - deep in your soul - is the one you need to be taking.
First and foremost: can we all agree that it will rarely feel like the "right time" to do what's right?
That's what it means to live with courage and integrity. To do what you know is right, even (and especially) when it's not fun, easy or convenient for you to do so.
And trust me, girlfriend - I get it. I really do.
Because change is hard.
Change is scary.
Change is messy.
Change means uncertainy.
Change brings discomfort.
Change requires strength, adaptability, boldness and courage.
But as one of my favourite authors, Robin Sharma likes to say -
Change is hard at first, it's messy in the middle and it's glorious at the end.
And don't you think you deserve to live a beautiful and glorious life?
So as we are on the cusp of a season of new beginnings, let this be a sign that that it's time to speak your truth, ask for what you want, prioritize your own needs for a change. Do the difficult thing regardless if it's messy, scary and uncomfortable.
Because healing, power and capability awakens within us when we give ourselves permission to speak our truth.
So do what you've been afraid to do but that deep down, you know is right. And trust that everything will work itself out, trust that you are exactly where you are meant to be, and trust that you are always being guided, supported and directed on your journey - wherever that journal is meant to take you.
So much love and gratitude for you,